"We need to find a way to stop rape, not a way to protect victims!"
Ok, you know what. You’re right. It’s genuinely sad that we have to come up with such inventive ways to protect potential victims from harm. From burglar alarms, to pin locks, to tazers, to mace, and all other kinds of defensive weapons. I’m genuinely sorry that we live in a world where people are selfish enough to murder, steal, rape, abuse and assault others, I’m sorry that prison and police and the death penalty are unable to stop crime altogether. We live in a fucked up world, and it’s sad.
But that’s just the point really, the fact of the matter is that we do live in this world. We live in a world where people are capable of these things, and commit these crimes every day. Crime has existed since the beginnings of the human race, and throughout that entire 200,000 years, humans have been trying to come up with ways to prevent crime, and yet no civilisation has come up with a solution. So why exactly do you think we would solve it now? Because we have feminism? Is feminism going to completely eradicate all crime? How? By complaining about it enough? I highly doubt that.
And I’m genuinely interested by the way, no sarcasm, in a “cure” for crime, I’ve thought about it many times. You could eradicate all laws, because then technically there would be no crime, but that wouldn’t stop people from being hurt. You could somehow stop people from having emotions, then there would be no crimes of passion, but then there would be no positive emotions either, and that would end in some kind of dystopian society, as explored in the film Equilibrium. You could try imprisoning all those who break the law for life, but I’m pretty sure prisons are already filled to the brim, and it doesn’t seem to be preventing crime anyway. Nor has the death penalty been shown to have much success. The only real thing that has been shown to prevent crime in offenders is to give them Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, but that needs a lot of money and resources, which I’m not sure most people would be happy about good therapists going to help criminals, even if it’s been shown to help. But even that wouldn’t prevent crime altogether.
So feminists, yes, I’m sorry that people commit rape, but unless you can come up with an actual solution to this problem, complaining about it isn’t helping any of these victims. And refusing to take steps to protect yourself is only going to put you in danger, and being as rape is such an awful crime, why would you put yourself in danger of it just to make a political point? Essentially, you’re not helping anyone.
Please, either help come up with ways to protect people from becoming victims OR find a genuine solution to the problem of crime.
I’ve come to the conclusion that parkour is just an excuse to jump around on a trampoline and run around bouncing off of padded mats and stuff. The good news is that the boy is having a great time at parkour and the coach is terrific. The bad news is that my kid is the youngest (and smallest) parkourer and some of the older kids can be jerks.
I don’t subscribe to the notion that kids are kids, ergo kids are jerks. Pretty much if you are a douchebag when you are a kid, you will grow up to be a douchebag when you are an adult. True story. I suppose some peeps learn to control and/or moderate their level of douchebaggery, but if someone is born a certain way, it’s rare that someone is gonna change.
I wuz gonna write a rant about jerky kiddie douchebags and Very Important Gymnastics Parents, but it’s probably not worth the effort.
Girls are trained to say, ‘I wrote this, but it’s probably really stupid.’ Well, no, you wouldn’t write a novel if you thought it was really stupid. Men are much more comfortable going, ‘I wrote this book because I have a unique perspective that the world needs to hear.’ Girls are taught from the age of seven that if you get a compliment, you don’t go, ‘Thank you’, you go, ‘No, you’re insane.’
Reclaiming Fitspo: Brenda Villa
Villa is an American water polo player. Standing at 5’4” and 174 pounds, she is the shortest member of the US women’s polo team.
Born in Los Angeles, she is the daughter of Mexican immigrants. She first joined a water polo team at 8 years old, following in the footsteps of her older brother. However, since her high school did not have a girls’ team, she spent those four years on the boys’ water polo team instead. This helped her to establish a competitive attitude that contributed to her becoming a 4-time 1st team All-League member, 4-time 1st team All-C.I.F. and a 4-time All-American. She was even invited onto the Junior Olympic Team when she was 16.
While Villa attended Stanford University, she played three seasons on their polo team. In her freshman year alone (2001), she scored 69 goals and was named the NCAA Women’s Water Polo Player of the Year. In 2002 she led her team with 60 goals to win the NCAA Women’s Water Polo Championship. She was then awarded the 2002 Peter J. Cutino Award as the top female college water polo player in the United States. She graduated in 2003 with a degree in political science.
Villa joined Team USA in 1998. This means that she has participated in four Olympic Games (earning one Bronze medal, two Silver and one Gold), often scoring the most goals per game for her team. She was even made team captain of the 2005 US national team, winning a silver medal at the FINA World Championship in Montreal. When considering multiple World Championships, Pan American Games and World Cups, Villa is officially the world’s most decorated athlete in women’s water polo.
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I’m not sure where people are getting “Yayyyy bigger people are getting attention!” bc of Anaconda
Ass is not a matter of “skinny” vs “fat”. There are some skinny people with big butts, and some “fat” people with no ass. Guys have ALWAYS liked big ass.
Women are supposed to be skinny, and only allowed to have fat if that fat is IN THE RIGHT PLACES (i.e. tits and ass).
If your body is perfect AND you have a big butt, you’re not going to experience anywhere NEAR the same oppression that a stereotypically “fat” person would experience. It’s COMPLETELY different.
Does Nicki Minaj show cellulite or a big stomach? If she flaunted that, THAT would be challenging fat shaming.
Um. Is everyone forgetting My Humps, I Love Big Butts, etc?
Stop acting like Anaconda is going against fat shaming, bc it’s not.
Everyone has always loved big ass/tits, as long as you’re not “fat” in other places. I don’t recall anyone making a song about how sexy flat-chests are.
Bring out the fucking cellulite & we can talk about “body positivity”.
Anonymous said: lmao one song not for skinny girls ohhh noooo
I understand how hard it is for people who are classified as “curvy” or “fat” by society, and are made to feel ashamed. I know because I get the same shit from the other side of the spectrum. I am a perfectly healthy and well-nourished 17 year old girl and yet:
I’ve been told by my teachers that it looks like a have an eating disorder.
I’ve been told that I look my a skeleton by family members.
I’ve been told I look disgusting.
When my mum had a parent teacher interview with my psych teacher it turned into a conversation about my weight.
Classmates have told me that my weight isn’t normal
despite how short I am.
I get told that my legs look like chicken legs and that my ankles are like sticks (heels make this more prominent)
I hate wearing black leggings in public because I know my legs are like toothpicks.
When I look at my face in the mirror I wonder if all people see is a skull because my cheeks and jaw stick out.
My dad tells me I need to eat more and constantly snickers “are you on a diet or something?” or that I “eat like a bird”.
I get it.
But just because my natural body type is similar to people in magazines, doesn’t mean I should be made to feel ashamed.
I believe that positive body image should be promoted and normalisation of all body shapes (as long as there is no risk to physical or mental health) should be encouraged and endorsed. However, saying “fuck skinny bitches” and basically making thin people feel shit about themselves is NOT the right way to show your support for people who are larger/curvy/chunky/whateveryouwanttocallit.
This is NOT promoting positive body image and acceptance; it is promoting a culture that continues to target and hate on certain groups of people.
Don’t fucking bash skinny people to uplift fat or curvy or pudgy people what the fuck
Is the fucking concept that bringing one group of people down to lift up another isn’t fucking right and makes things worse such a hard one to fucking grasp?
You don’t have to bring someone down to bring others “up”.
Is being not being an asshole really that hard? REALLY?!?